Healing for the Highest Good
by: Beth Simmons Stapor, PhD
It was just about 17 months ago when I first met Chuck. I learned
that he had recently received a diagnosis of terminal cancer with
about 6 months to live. When I approached Chuck to volunteer to
give him Reiki treatments I saw a vital man with sparkling eyes
and a wonderful smile. He was an inspiration to me from the beginning.
We discussed his situation and what to expect from a Reiki treatment.
A former client of mine, David, was standing by.
David told Chuck the difference he felt that the Reiki treatments
had made in lessening the side effects of his chemotherapy. Chuck
decided to give Reiki a try. I later learned from his wife that
he came to the first several treatments with much skepticism.
Over the course of time, Chuck became a definite believer of
Reiki to the point of driving 30 minutes from his house to my
office on days when I wondered if he could even put one foot in
front of the other as he walked into my office. I wish I could
say that this was a story about a miracle healing. It is not.
Chuck transitioned into the hands of Spirit two months ago.
This is however a story of miracles. When I teach my Reiki classes
I talk to my students about Reiki being a technique of natural
healing. I then tell them that healing is often looked at as a
cure, a return to wellness when sometimes the ultimate healing
is death. The miracles that surround this story concern Chuck
and the healing that occurred within his family. Estrangements
between many generations for often long forgotten reasons were
put aside. Fathers and sons were once again able to visit each
other. New relationships were formed and treasured.
Chuck has always been a man who did things for himself. When I
first got to know him he was in the process of building his retirement
home. It was a struggle for him to realize that concessions had
to be made to allow his body to have the strength to fight his
disease. Reiki energy was sent to this during his sessions and
he became a somewhat unwilling participant in the process. This
is something else that I really stress to clients who are going
through a major illness. It is best to look at their illness as
a process. Each day for them to look at what has to be done to
continue on the journey one step at a time.
I looked forward to Wednesdays at 10:45 AM the appointed time
for Chuck's Reiki session each week. His sessions were not only
time for me to do Reiki, but a time for us to talk about his week
and his feelings. Often after he left I would sit for a few minutes
in awe of his strength, his love for his family, and his determination
to fight his illness to his last breath. He tried a variety of
therapies. Several times it looked as if the end was near, then
yet again another small miracle of healing that gave him more
time. Both Chuck and I could feel changes in his body as the Reiki
began to flow. Swelling in his abdomen was reduced, pain was relieved,
and there were shifts and changes to the growing tumor in his
liver. His last treatment in my office was just a month before
he transitioned. I remember visiting him in the hospital after
that and he told me he thought he was out of miracles, but commented
on what a good battle he had fought.
Time came for his move from the hospital to home and hospice
took over. Chuck had beaten the odds; his six months diagnosis
flowed into eighteen months. I was phoned within 15 minutes of
his transition. I took the drive up to his house to see him one
last time. On the way up to his house, many images of Chuck flashed
through my mind. In most of these mini-shots I saw his sparkling
eyes and wonderful smile. Imagine my awe as I walked into say
my final good-byes and to see, even in death, his face with a
smile. I looked over at the priest who had come to say some last
words over him and commented, "whatever he saw, I want to
see someday. Look at his face". This was healing for the
Reiki was a very important part of Chuck's journey. The energy
helped him on a physical level to relieve pain, to reduce the
swelling in his abdomen, to reduce the size of the tumor in his
liver. The Reiki treatments gave him needed energy to fight the
disease. On an emotional level I believe the Reiki helped him
reach out to mend bridges and set things straight with family
members. Reiki helped him accept the restrictions of his illness
and to let go of his old ways of doing things and to learn to
ask for and accept help from others. His perception of how things
should be done eased up. He began to take the naps he needed and
to work a little and rest a little. Spiritually Chuck grew by
leaps and bounds. I saw over the course of our time together his
growing faith. We had many discussions about life and death. I
told him that he was going to make one great angel and he smiled!
Beth Simmons Stapor, PhD is an ICRT Licensed Reiki Master, and
a Licensed Counselor. Beth teaches internationally and makes her
home in Cookeville, Tennessee. Contact Beth via email at firstname.lastname@example.org or visit her website www.tennesseereiki.net